In Him, I Find Me

April 18, 2014

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It has been a while since I have posted anything or at least it feels that way. I always get the urge to have to post on a scheduled regale basis (you know, to keep the fans engaged… do I even have blog fans? lol). But truth is… I didn’t start this blog to get fans. I barely thought anyone would read at all. All I knew was that I had some things on my heart that I felt I needed to give voice to and if someone happened to stumble upon my page and be inspired or drawn closer to God by reading it, then glory to God! If not, then glory to God! At the end of the day, the number of people who read my blog doesn’t make me who I am.

 

All that to ask the question… What does make me who I am? I think God has brought me into this really weird season where I am constantly falling into this “identity trap”. I’m a worker at heart. I love to just do and feel the accomplishment of a finished work. But I always find God asking me…

 

Who am I when I can’t write songs? 
Who am I when my voice is gone?
Who am I when I don’t have a job?
Who am I when I am broke?
Who am I when I’m no longer working as a leader in ministry?
Who am I when I’m not leading a worship team?

 

Funny thing is I think I already know the answer. All the Christian cliches would say “You are a child of God of course!” “You are beautifully and wonderfully made!” “You are a daughter of the Most High!” All of this true. But I want to KNOW it for myself. 

 

The definition of know is to have developed a relationship with, through meeting and spending time with them; to be familiar or friendly with. It signifies an intimacy with whatever it is your are… well, knowing. This is the kind of “knowing” that I need. I need to become familiar with and confident in my identity in Christ, so that it is no longer just some mantra I utter to myself every morning until I believe it. Because when push comes to shove and stuff hits the fan, I still break.

 

God is constantly testing my foundation. Whether it comes to money, a career, a position in ministry, a calling, or even this blog… I have a tendency to cling to all of these things as some sort of self-validation. The moment they are taken from me my whole world shifts. At one point when I was unemployed for just two weeks, I began having serious panic attacks wondering if I was eternally doomed because I simply didn’t know who I was anymore if I wasn’t a hard worker.

 

It’s so hard for me to rest sometimes. It’s so hard for me not to want and need some sort of approval from the world. It’s hard for me to believe that even if I am nothing in the world’s eyes I am everything in God’s eyes.

 

Yet, I am becoming more and more determined to know this for myself. As uncomfortable as this season makes me at times, I am determined to submit myself to the will of God and allow Him to humble me, to break me, and to transform me into His image. To dig up this follow ground of my heart, to reap the fruit of His unfailing love, to realize that He has been pleased with me from the foundation of the world, before I did anything. He went so far as to die for my sake, so that I might have life, while I was yet a sinner.

 

Somewhere in that lies my identity. I know the story, but I want to know the God behind it all even more closely. In Him, I find me.

 

Sow righteousness for yourselves, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers his righteousness on you.

 

Signing off…
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5 Tips to Avoiding the Friend Zone

April 1, 2014

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So this is a bit different from my normal blogs, however I thought this was definitely something that needed to be addressed. Guys, here it is. Some helpful tips to avoiding the dreaded “Friend Zone”

1. Stop being so passive. 

There’s nothing more unattractive than a passive man. Half of the attraction is in the pursuit. Women want to feel wanted. Your passivity shows u lack initiation and tells us that well be doing most of the work in the relationship hinting for you to come out of your shell. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

2. If you are interested in a lady, stop treating her like a bro.

When it comes to beginning a relationship, Every woman wants to be treated well… like a woman. We want to be spoken to like a woman and respected like a woman. After months of high fives, arm punches and referring to her as “dude” every 5 seconds, don’t surprised when you find urself in the friend zone.

3. Be personal.

This doesn’t mean pour out your heart and your entire life story, emotions and feelings all in the first meet-up for coffee. No, this means instead of texting, call her. Instead of talking on the phone, visit her. Take those small opportunities to make a subtle, but personal impression.

4. Take the lead.

I know this sounds like the first one, but this goes to show how important this is. A man must take the lead. It’s extremely attractive. You don’t always have to ask us where we want to go out to eat. Pick a place that you think we might like and take us. No questions asked. Now I know what you’re thinking… What if she doesn’t like it? Obviously get some background info before you choose a suitable place, but listen, if your girl’s a complainer, then you should probably start looking elsewhere.

5. When all else fails, sometimes there is no way out of the friend zone

Is your person of interest not responding to any of the above? Sometimes you need to take the hint. She’s just not that into you. Perhaps you’ve been focusing your attention on the wrong girl. No worries, there’s plenty of chicks in the pond. ;)

Hope this helps!

Boasting in the Mess

March 18, 2014

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There are those that are watching your every move and waiting for you to fall, just so they can put another mark on the “Scoreboard of Failures”. Most of them will be those closest to you.

But I say, go ahead and mark up all your points. In fact, I boast in the fact that underneath it all many times, I’m a mess. I don’t always get it right. I struggle with my faith.

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The message of the Gospel is not that because I am a Christian, I am perfect. The message of the Gospel is that regardless of how many times I fail, what Jesus did on the cross wipes it all away and makes up for every failure I will ever experience. And that’s the beauty of the Gospel. As long as I continually come back to Him in my brokenness, He will never turn away from me, but He will continually transform me. I’m not perfect, but I serve a perfect God, who is in the business of continually perfecting me daily through His Spirit.

 

In our weakness, He is made glorious.